Don't hold On Desperately To A Spouse That Leaves
God hates divorce. This explains why you should court right and marry right. But in a situation when a spouse decides to leave on the basis of gross infidelity, violence, abuse, addiction, indiscipline, and other negative vices, then it is justifiable to leave.
Anchor Scripture 1 Corinthians 7:15
"If the unbelieving spouse walks out, you've got to let him or her go. You don't have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best out of it, as peacefully as we can."
It's scriptural to secure your happiness and protect your body from danger.
"Again they tried to arrest Jesus, but He escaped from their hands"- John 10:39
"But Paul's followers took him by night and lowered him in a basket through an opening in the city wall"- Acts 9:25
At a point in your life, you'll learn to do it yourself (self defense) because no one is coming to save you. God has stamped his DNA in every human (because He made us in His image and likeness) and expects us to live up to expectation by making decisions that are beneficial to our lives.
Divorce or breakup is never an easy journey, especially when one party is still willing to cling on and work it out.
"Divorce is synonymous with death"
Divorce introduces death to a marital scheme. It is true that divorce and death have a correlation because they both mean permanent separation. Divorce is the termination of a marital vow or covenant, but Interestingly, it is not the termination of the victim's life.
Any relationship that includes two unequally yoked people is headed for destruction. Light cannot be merged with darkness. One must give way. A spiritually grounded foundation is the bedrock of any lasting home.
More so, if the relationship is not renewed daily by the word (Holy Scripture), it increases the risk of a fatal crash as well.
"Whatever is healthy grows"
Reinstate health/life in your everyday life.
85% divorcees saw the warning signs before they stubbornly agreed to sign the marital contract hoping that change will emanate after marriage.
Don't be fooled. A blissful marital life doesn't operate functionally by ignoring the warning signs.
Marriage is meant to be built on transparency, total submission, love and compatibility. In a situation where the marriage was built on lies and manipulation, I have good news for you, there was never a marriage.
Don't perpetually cling on to a spouse who out rightly refuses to work it out after several attempts. Receive the gift of goodbye and rediscover yourself. Singleness means wholeness; nothing is wrong with you!
Getting it right when you're whole launches you into a deserving life that can then be shared with another. You can't give what you don't have.
Step up your personal relationship with God and watch him mend your broken heart.
Still wishing to share your life with another? Look unto Jesus, seek (unrelentingly) and you'll find. (Mathew 7:7)
Have a Renewed day Fam!
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